Have you noticed how mothers are celebrated with so much hoo-hah ? No it’s not that I have anything against mothers. My mum was such a lovable individual herself. And my wife is a loving mother to my sons.
But the part that irks me is when everyone talks about “mother’s love” and how it is so selfless. If you really think about it, mother’s love is really quite selfish. She loves her children. Now what’s so selfless about that ? As a matter of fact, this focus of love on her offspring could itself be a drawback when it comes to loving others. How does a mother take it when her darling child (particularly son) begins to love another woman ? That’s when the mother begins her transformation into a mother-in-law. Now everyone knows that a mother-in-law is a stereotype villain. The so called “mothers” love somehow mutates and manifests itself as mother-in-law behaviour.
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Interesting analysis! Rings very true!
ReplyDeletePerhaps its not so much the selfless love of mothers or fathers, rather the ability of some individuals, both male and female to offer such selfless love! Its works with mothers and fathers. It falls back on the individual's ability to separate the love that they have for their children and the ego that they have, that demands that they remain number one in the eyes of their children. This ability (or dis-ability) is not gender specific!
So yes, MA, selfless love is not just the mum's domain... dad's also have that ability. And many mums don't have it!